a single girl's heart

I believe and am proud that God has a glorious plan for me. I also believe that He knows the desires of my heart.

I believe that I am living the life that God wants me to live. Living for Him in all that I am and striving to learn more about Him with each day in his word and through His people. As I continue every day to surrender my need to be in control of this life to what He has in store for me.

With each year, with each holiday, with each wedding, with each child I see...I begin to wonder if God's plan for me is to live a single life of service toward Him. Of course I would be grateful and proud to do this and will if that is God's plan. Is that the desire of my heart though? No.

My desire is to have a wonderful male companion to share this life with who lives for God and together as one we are made whole. I don't believe myself to be too picky. I just want a man to love me for me but love God first.

But anywho, I stumbled across this article and I wanted to share because it speaks directly to what I am struggling with right now and maybe there are some out there that need this message as well. So here ya go:

Single Woman – Is there any hope for marriage?
As a single woman, have you ever considered the married couples you know and thought to yourself "I’m just as pretty as she is. Why don’t I have a husband, too? What’s wrong with me?" If you have ever had a thought like this, I want to assure you that you are not alone.

The desire to be married and have a husband and home to care for is deeply ingrained in us as women. While the prospect of being a wife is wonderful, the continual longing to be changed from a single woman to a married woman can be a heart-wrenching and miserable emotional time. I know.

I was single myself until the age of 41. I hoped, prayed, struggled, looked around at other women who were married, and compared myself with them countless times, wondering why I hadn’t been chosen as a wife yet. Since I am a Christian, my main thought was "I am following You, God, not dating anyone, waiting for You to choose a husband for me. I’ve behaved myself. How come You haven’t given me a husband, God?"

You may be asking yourself the same question. As a single woman, desiring to be married, should you trust God to give you a husband? Is marriage a state of being He has in mind for you? Does God care how difficult it is for you to wait for marriage? Will God change His mind about marriage being a good thing? Does God have plans for your life as a wife?

Single Woman – The Tough Questions
As a single woman, these are tough questions. Let’s look at them together and find some answers:

• As a single woman, desiring to be married, should you trust God to give you a husband?
• Is marriage a state of being that He has in mind for you?

To answer these questions let’s start by looking into God’s Word. In the book of Genesis 2:18, 21-22, we read: "And the LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him’. . . . So the LORD God caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep. He took one of Adam's ribs and closed up the place from which he had taken it. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib and brought her to Adam."

Isn’t that great?! God designed marriage! He is the One who decided that it was not good for man to be alone. It is absolutely right that you, as a single woman, desire to be married. God created you that way. You were made, by God, to be a companion to your husband!

Once again, we can turn to the Bible for solid answers. In the book of 1 Peter 5:7, we read: "Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about what happens to you."

Does God care how difficult it is for you to wait for marriage?

You can talk with God about your desire to be married. He cares about how you feel and He is waiting for you to talk with Him about it. You can give all your concerns to Him and trust that He has your very best in mind.

In James 1:17-18, we read: "Whatever is good and perfect comes to us from God above, who created all heaven's lights. Unlike them, he never changes or casts shifting shadows.”

Will God change His mind about marriage being a good thing

And in the book of Numbers 23:19, we read: "God is not a man, that he should lie. He is not a human, that he should change his mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through?"

Does God have plans for your life as a wife?

Absolutely! In the book of Proverbs 31:10-12, we read: "Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She will not hinder him but help him all her life."

We can continue reading about God’s plan for us as wives in verses 26-30: "When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule when she gives instructions. She carefully watches all that goes on in her household and does not have to bear the consequences of laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: ‘There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!’ Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised."

Single Woman – God’s Plan
As a recently married woman, I look back on the time when I was single and I see that God was working things out the whole time -- even when I thought He wasn’t there, or didn’t care how miserable I felt. I learned to trust Him and to tell Him all the things I was concerned about. You can also learn to trust God for marriage. It was His idea in the first place!

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This helps a lot by simply reminding me that God is working through every little thing. Even through this 28 year old single woman's life to form and mold me to the woman and wife that one certain man needs one day. Maybe this girl just needs a little more molding.
Am I complaining about my life? No because I do enjoy this time. Do I wish it was different? Yes, but it will be what it is suppose to be until whenever God sees fit to change it.

That's my prayer tonight...that God's will be done and that I don't let myself or my needs or wants get in the way of His plan.